Making Many Memories

Everyday we are Making Many Memories that we will treasure forever.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Daddy B - Father's Day Visit

Have I ever mentioned that this open adoption thing is hard?
So you might ask...

Why do you do it then?

Sometimes, I am not sure.
Sometimes,I think it would be so much easier to just pretend she doesn't have "other" family.
Sometimes, things are awkward 
and sometimes they just drive me crazy.

I haven't written much about our visit lately because 
there has been so much "Drama" in B and M's lives.

Today I came to the conclusion once again that 
Daddy B is so much more together and in love with this little girl 
than Mommy M.

I really don't mind bringing her to visit him.
He spends his whole time playing with her.

And she loves hanging out with him

Today we even picked up Grandma N
and Nevaeh had a great time playing with her hat.

Plus, Daddy B brought her a Kung Fu Panda Bear.

It's been a while since Nevaeh has seen Daddy B.
(Part of the Drama)

So she didn't go running into his arms as usual.
It didn't take long for her to warm up to him but I made
the mistake of calling him Daddy once and
she stopped and looked at me funny and then said
"that's not my daddy, that's Daddy B..."

There was a huge blowup on Valentine's Day over how she addressed them.
Let's just say "more drama" and leave it at that.

After visiting with Daddy B we went to take food to
Mommy M.
I won't go into detail about our visit with her.
I thought about it and it just wouldn't be fair for me to
post her problems on an open blog.

But trust me...
The woman drives me crazy with so much DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA!!!!!

And so I go back to thinking about the whole open adoption thing.

It's hard on me.
I don't like "DRAMA".

But in the end it still feels right.
And in the end there is a little girl who knows she is loved by so many.
And sometimes we do things we hate for the people we love even if it means dealing with the DRAMA.


Diane said...

So glad you are able to make it all work! Open adoption really is worth it.

Funny story similar to N's daddy comment... My mother told my 7 year old daughter "Listen to your mother" and her response was "That's NOT my mother. She's my mom!"

Penelope said...

Tough situation to be in. I don't like being around Drama Mamas either. Hugs!

Katrina said...

Thanks ladies. Nevaeh use to call all men daddy and all women mommy. She just recently started asking me people's names. It has been a big step for her. I am grateful for her open adoption but I sometimes wish there was a rule book.